Love and Libido
Love and Libido
Erotic Orientation

If you’re a regular listener of the podcast, you probably know the difference between gender identity (whether you identify as male, female, or nonbinary) and sexual orientation (straight, gay, or somewhere in between). But how much do you know about erotic orientation? Simply put, erotic orientation describes the kinds of things that turn us on. Interestingly, however, erotic orientation doesn’t always line up with commonly held assumptions about gender identity and sexual orientation. For instance, some straight men enjoy sex with other men. Some lesbian women get turned on by heterosexual porn. Confused? Don’t worry. Today’s guest, Dr. Joe Kort, is here to break it all down. An expert on gender identity, sexual orientation, and erotic orientation, he’ll help make sense of the complexities of sexual behavior.

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