Love and Libido
Love and Libido
Flirting 101

Have you ever wondered how to flirt? What kind of flirting is most likely to lead to a hook-up versus a date versus a rejection? How can you be sure that the way you flirt doesn’t come across as creepy or is viewed as harassment, especially in the post #MeToo era? That was the question from a recent Love and Libido Subscriber. As I was preparing my response, I came across the research of Dr. Jeffrey Hall who has studied you guessed it…. flirting. I decided to reach out to him to answer this important question because I think it’s so poignant. Dr. Hall discovered there are five distinct styles of flirting and each one sends a unique message. We are going to talk all about that and more on today’s episode.

Jeffrey A. Hall is a Professor of Communication Studies, Associate Chair, and Director of the Relationships and Technology Lab at The University of Kansas. He was awarded the Early Career Award from the Interpersonal Communication Division of the National Communication Association in 2015. He’s done extensive research on flirting and communication through technology. His award-winning book Relating Through Technology was published by Cambridge University Press in 2020. He has written for the Wall Street Journal and has been interviewed by the New York Times,NPR, Washington Post, Financial Times, and more. and has appeared on the Steve Harvey Show and It’s Personal with Amy Hoggart.

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