Love and Libido
Love and Libido
When Sex Hurts

Sex shouldn’t hurt unless you want it to, but that’s not the case for a lot of people. The fact is, 1 in 4 individuals, yeah 25% of people, experience some kind of pain that affects the quality of their sex. As we’ll discuss on today’s show, pain can be caused by several factors, which is why I’ve called in sexual pain expert and host of the Sluts and Scholars Podcast, Nicoletta Heidegger.
Nicoletta Heidegger is a Licensed Marriage and Family therapist and Sexologist practicing in Los Angeles, California. She specializes in trauma-informed sex therapy for diverse populations and is also an Equine Assisted Psychotherapy (EAP).  She provides coaching, consulting, education, and retreats to folks around the world.
When not seeing clients, Nicoletta creates weekly content via her hit show Sluts and Scholars: a sex-positive, shame-free, educational podcast for professionals who like pleasure. Nicoletta contributes regularly to a variety of columns, podcasts, classrooms, and blogs about sex, relationships, and mental health.
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