Hi, I'm Glad You're Here!
One of the questions I am most often asked is how I got into the field of sex therapy.
In short, it was a bit of luck and a lot of hard work. I was fortunate to grow up in a home in which sex was not a taboo topic. My father worked as an OBGYN, and both of my parents were very progressive. Together they taught me that my body and my sexuality were nothing to be ashamed of.
Yet as I grew older, it became apparent to me that many of my peers were raised with different values. Many had sex and relationship anxieties and fears. Many were insecure or felt ashamed of their sexuality. Gradually, I became the one that my friends came to for advice on sex and relationships. And so my journey began. I studied Psychology and Human Sexuality while at The University of Texas. I went on to receive my Masters and eventually earned my PhD in Sexology.
I have spent over a decade working with individuals and couples to overcome relationship and sexual hurdles in order to enjoy more meaningful lives.
I find the work challenging, but extremely rewarding. To help someone overcome sexual trauma so they can reclaim their sexual agency; to get the phone call that a couple previously unable to have intercourse due to sexual pain is now expecting their first child; to bring hope and safety back into the relationship of a couple who faced a relationship betrayal – to be part of these people’s journeys is one of the most meaningful aspects of my life.
My own personal and professional journey led me to start thinking more about how people find meaning in life.
I’ve traveled to many parts of the world and noticed that – especially in more developing countries – people seemed to find happiness and meaning in a way that many of my clients, who have an abundance of resources, were struggling to find. I began paying closer attention to identifying the personal and relationship qualities that these people possessed. And I began to ask myself if I guide my clients in applying a similar philosophy, would their relationships become more meaningful, could their intimacy deepen, and could their sex lives jump to new heights of eroticism? The answer was, yes.
As meaningful as I find my work with clients, I also enjoy finding ways to get my message out to wider audiences.
Today, in addition to my clinical work, I do as much writing and speaking as I can. I want to share what I know with the world. I believe that if we learn to create connections and cultivate passion, we can find greater authenticity, deeper meaning, and optimal joy in our lives.
As much as I love my work, the greatest joy in my life is my family. I am happily married with two children.