If you've ever wondered whether you're having "enough" sex, you're not alone.
As a couples and sex therapist, one of the most common questions I hear is: How often should we be having sex? People want to feel normal, and having a “normal range” to stay within seems like a reasonable request. We have normal ranges for other metrics of health — blood pressure, cholesterol, steps per day — so why should sex be different?
After years of working with couples, I've found that focusing on frequency is often the wrong place to start.
Married for 14 years with two school-aged children, Melissa and David came to therapy worried that their sex life had dwindled. Between demanding jobs, soccer practices and aging parents, they were having sex about twice a month. Read more.
