The holiday season comes with anticipation and excitement, but also pressure and stress. One big stressor many couples face is spending time with each other’s families. This can be overwhelming, especially if you are meeting them for the first time. Don’t worry too much, as there are some things you can do to make sure this process goes as smoothly as possible.
Don’t Come Empty-Handed
The first holiday with your significant other’s family might be intimidating, so it is important to consider your first impression. One way you can walk into the situation feeling more confident is to do your research ahead of time. Talk to your significant other about their family’s values, hobbies, and interests. Doing this will give you some background on the family and help you to feel more comfortable in conversation with them.
Learning about your partner’s family can help generate ideas for gifts they might like. Never show up empty-handed. Bringing something with you is a great way to express gratitude for including you in their celebration of the holidays. Flowers, sweets, and wine are always good options. However, offering to make a dish or a dessert shows you want to take the time to produce something of your own and contribute to the celebration. If you aren’t sure what to bring, here is a great list of ideas.
Practice Good Communication
If you are stressed about meeting your partner’s family, it is important that you take the time to communicate that with your partner beforehand. What are you nervous about and how can you talk through it now so that it seems easier the day-of? It will be easier for your partner to support you if they understand what is on your mind.
You may discover you’ve never had a conversation like this with your partner before. Expressing yourself in this way has the potential to evoke thoughts and feelings you weren’t previously aware of. It may make you realize that you and your partner could benefit from some professional guidance. You might discover that an online therapist could be good for you and your relationship. This could be a chance for you to gain new communication skills that will tips that will strengthen your relationship for the long-run.
It Is Okay to Miss Your Family
Remember that even though you feel excited to meet your significant other’s family, you may also miss your family and your traditions. Make sure you still reach out to your family and try to stay connected. Take a moment with your significant other to Facetime or call your own family. Even a short call can help you feel loved and thought-of back home.
If you are looking for something to send your family and friends who you might not be seeing, try sending them an E-card. Doing a little something like this will ensure that they know you are still thinking about them.
Carve Out some Alone Time with Your Partner
While spending time with family and friends, it is important that you make it a point to find time for just the two of you. This might be one of your first holidays together, so it could be a great chance to start a tradition of your own as a couple.
One fun tradition you can start is decorating your home together. If your partner’s family is coming to you for the holidays, than you can take the time now to get your home looking beautiful and cozy. As you are decorating, consider hanging your own personalized stockings by the fire. Remember that while you are trying to blend into a new family, you are also starting your own family.
Making a great first impression, exercising good communication, and starting new traditions as a couple will ensure your relationship stays strong as you transition into a new family this holiday season. I hope you have a joyful and safe holiday season.