ICYMI: Sexuality is a spectrum. Where you fall on that spectrum can be fixed or fluid. And either way, chances are it won’t look exactly the same for you as it does for anyone else. Questioning your sexuality can be confusing and even frustrating. And it can take a long time to come to terms with how you…
I don’t know about you, but I love that things were once deemed indulgent but are now considered healthy. Dark chocolate? Hand it over. A glass of red wine? Yes, please! Good sex? Yeah, baby! It seems that we’re gradually moving away from the puritanical ideology of abstinence and restraint and giving into the truth…
On the surface, the Covid-19 pandemic seems like it would have been great for relationships: unlimited access to your partner, nonstop togetherness and plenty of time for intimacy. But, as most of us are now all too aware, lockdowns have largely had the opposite effect on romance. We were living on top of each other,…
Fact: You’ll have plenty of different kinds of sex in your life. There’s romantic sex, kinky sex, makeup sex, breakup sex, and, of course, the ever-legendary vacation sex. Vacation sex is pretty much in a category all its own thanks to the fact that it’s totally epic. After all, this is pretty much the only time…
Denise and Edward love Mardi Gras and jazz and a dance that’s something like the electric slide. But in bed, they just couldn’t find their rhythm. “When we were dating, sex was no problem,” says Edward (the two opted to use their middle names to preserve their privacy). “But as soon as we got married,…
April is STD Awareness Month.* At any given time, one in five Americans has a sexually transmitted infection (STI). That means there’s a good chance that at least one person in line with you for morning coffee has been there. Even though STIs are very common, having one still carries a lot of shame and stigma. Unfortunately, that stigma…
“I’ve lost my libido.” “He’s never in the mood.” “I feel constantly rejected.” “It wasn’t always like this. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other in the honeymoon phase.” “I’m in a sexless relationship.” “Please, help me increase my desire!” Desire is the most common, yet complex, issue that brings couples to sex therapy.…
Max and Jen sat across from me on the sofa. “What brings you in today?” I asked. Max fidgeted nervously on the sofa. “I’ll go first,” said Jen. “Max has erectile dysfunction. It’s gotten really frustrating for both of us. He never wants to do it anymore because he’s so worried he won’t get an…
At the beginning of a relationship, the electricity between you and your new partner makes sex exciting and passionate. But when the honeymoon phase inevitably ends — typically anywhere from a few months to a couple of years in — things tend to cool off between the sheets. As journalist Michael Castleman aptly put it: “The fireworks fizzle.…
Have you ever dreamt of what it would be like to win the lottery? I know I have. It feels good to imagine who you’d share your winnings with, where you’d go on vacation and what you’d do with extra leisure time. Have you ever allowed yourself to imagine how it would feel to take…