Is It Possible to Have Sex “The Way They Do in the Movies?”

Yes, but not in the way you think.

I often warn my clients about trying to have sex “the way they do in the movies.” That kind of sex, I remind them, is scripted. Those are actors. Hollywood doesn’t do the best job of portraying the sexual mishaps that are so common off-screen. Box office sales would probably drop if movies spent too much time depicting the communication and negotiation skills that are necessary for good quality sex.

On the other hand, I know what my clients mean when they reference Hollywood sex scenes. They want sex that feels effortless, harmonious, and in sync. They want both intimacy and passion. They want to feel equal parts spent and energized after an erotic encounter.

Attunement in Sex

In a previous blog post, I explained how becoming attuned to your partner can optimize your relationship. Developing strong attunement skills also has the power to transform sex from mediocre to mind-blowing. Below are three tips to get you started.

Click HERE to read my THREE TIPS in the rest of the blog on Psychology Today.